Step Lair

Last weekend we stayed with one of the only couples that DH and BB are still both friendly with. KG was our best man and SG did my hair for the wedding.

Anyway..

BB has lost 10 kgs and SG thinks one of the reasons she wants to come back to our Church is to show DH “what he has lost” as she thinks she’s hot stuff now. (She’s still obese).

SG tried to talk me out of having children because DH is too old (at 40!!) to be having more kids. He needs “to just enjoy his life and not be tied down with screaming babies.” I should be putting all my energy into SS and SD, apparently.

There is great speculation as to why I’m not pregnant. SG said “BB hasn’t ruled out you having kids yet, but she feels that DH’s medication is probably preventing it.” I then pointed out that he’d been cleared, and she said that “BB would know, after all she was married to him for all those years.” I didn’t bother pointing out that any medication he is on has only been since they have split up.

Apparently I’m “manipulative”, according to BB.

AND I’m just an “afterthought” and not central to BB and DH’s life.

BB visited SG and stayed for the weekend over the long week-end, but made the children lie about it and say that they had not been away. SG was very upset by this and is going to tell BB off about it. () Poor kids, having to lie all the time for BB is really stressing them out and making them

One of SG’s kids friends caught lice off SD9 before we realized she had them. (How embarrassing.) She came to us with them when the holiday started.. I think I’ll need to check her every time she comes from now on, headlice seem to be an ongoing problem for her, and half the time BB can’t be bothered treating her.

SG is going to suggest to BB that the three of us have coffee together to clear the air. Of course I thought this was a wonderful idea and totally agreed, because I know it will never happen.

The thing I think speaks volumes is the “BB hasn’t entirely ruled out you having a baby” comment. Generally the people that have the ability to rule things out are the people that are in control of the situation (like DH and me!) and as we have only been married 18 months, I think it’s a bit early to start ruling out children just yet. Wishful thinking on her part, I think. When we got married she flipped over the idea of us having kids (and we needed to take SD9 to counselling she was so upset by it.)

Must be sad to live your life waiting for the axe to fall, and not be able to do a thing about it except in your own head!