Step Lair

BB has been really nice to DH the last few weeks. (Apart from denying him  contact, but that’s business as usual around here.)  

She has answered the phone and chatted to him about stuff lile a NORMAL person. First time in years! He dropped something off for SS and they .

  So I’m wondering what’s up with that. This is far from her normal behaviour.

Anyway, we found out last week that BB’s friend  is moving out of state. This is a big blow for BB as she spends alot of time with , and  teaches the skids piano, in exchange for BB ironing her clothes.

So a few days ago BB tried to hit DH up for half of the piano lessons. ($25 a week). I probably wouldn’t mind so much, except BB has made it very clear that piano is one of HER things to do with the kids and DH isn’t to be involved at all. He is never invited to their recitals, because  always made sure they were on BB weekend, and the kids were told not to tell DH anything about them.

And now BB wants us to pay for half the lessons.  She has told DH that if he cannot pay for half then she will pay for SS and not SD to continue. She went on about how well SD is playing these days and how she is almost ready for her next exam. Then SD gets on the phone last night and starts playing the piano to DH, something she hasn’t done in ages.

I suggested to DH that this was no coincidence. He said “But SD suggested it.” I replied “And who do you think suggested it to SD??”.

The weird thing is that when we took SD to counselling some time ago, the counsellor said that Bb had been bringing SD in because she didn’t want to start new things on the piano. SD has been learning a couple of years now, and I still don’t think she can play more than one note at a time - SS is streets ahead and has even been playing in Church. I just get the feeling that SD is being forced into it because it’s what BB wants her to do, because that is what BB did when she was a kid.

Anyway, we simply can’t afford it - DH has a huge tax bill and legal bill. And I would rather spend the $$ on something that SD actually wanted to do, and something she could do with us. I suggested to DH that we take her to horseriding lessons on our time instead, but he didn’t like that idea. I think that BB should be paying for it because she has made it so clear that it is HER activity.

DH is not just a wallet.  I’m  because I think DH is falling for it. He doesn’t want to be the bad guy.