28
Nov
BB trying to force us from email to phone?? Tactic # 345
According to our one and only mutual friend, BB may be on to the fact that it’s me, rather than DH, who writes the emails. (DH just reads them over and signs them. 
) She has noticed the “different tone of voice”. 
Previously, when DH has called the kids, the kids have always picked up the phone. Over the last little while, BB has started picking up the phone. 
and even being pleasant to DH. 
She has been coming out of the house to say hello at p/u and d/o. So, :pig: are flying.
Now during all of this pleasantness, she has asked us to pay for SD9’s piano lessons, and match the $$ SS13 is saving towards a car ($2-3000!) , so I’m thinking 
She is also refusing to answer emails. 
She must realise that I hold the purse strings alot closer than DH did before I came along, and she is trying to get committment for more $$ out of DH while I’m not there, by getting in his face and not responding to emails. 
She puts alot of time an energy into trying to find the right tactic that will somehow magically open that aladdins cave of endless dollars that she believes belongs to DH. 
If she put all that energy into finding a better paying job (or even working a few more hours and not sit on her 
so much), she’d probably get more $$ than she would ever get from DH!
I’m so tired of having to build impenetrable defenses against BB’s constant tricks and tactics and schemes to get yet more $$ out of us. 
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She will make up the most elaborate plots and schemes to get her hands on the smallest of amounts.Â
I think all boiled down, she has nothing better to do with her life than sit at home, be bitter, and plot. It’s a full time hobby for her.
DH and I are on the same page.. I guess because DH was more open with the wallet before I came along, and in her world I do not exist, so he should still be handing over the $$ at her every command. It infuriates her that he has good boundaries and will not just pay for anything she asks for anymore.
Prior to my arrival on the scene he did not have court orders because she told him that he would lose in court and they could work it all out “between themselves”. What this meant was that he was scared of making her angry because she would pull access to the kids with no notice. He would give her whatever she asked for to placate her. When I came along - he got a backbone, got court orders and started saying NO to the endless requests for stuff and $$.
Don’t get me wrong - her tactic has absolutely no possibility of working as DH and I have every cent budgeted together and will only change it together.
It almost feels like BB has become totally obsessed with trying to get extra $$ out of us, any way she can, going to any lengths!! She is desperately searching for the key to get back to the way things were when she could snap her fingers and get cash delivered.
I’m just hoping that when she has tried everything she can think of that she will give up.
Unfortunately it seems she is endlessly inventive.
