23
Dec
BB hit SS13 with a spatula
, would not accept DH apology or talk to him. 
SS gets like this, trying to punish DH. DH just ignores him, and has extra fun with the rest of the family. DH and I went into the grocery store, when we were coming out, we saw SS playing with SD in the car, but when we got back to the car, he acted all 
again. 
 When we got home, SS went straight to bed. Did not speak a word to anybody.
I made dinner with SD, and we had the following conversation:
SS is really sulking.
 
Yeah. He was alright when you went to get the groceries, I think he’s faking it.
 Does he act like this at your mum’s house?
 No not really, unless Mum hurts him then he sulks. And they had a huge fight about a week ago. SS was lashing out at me and so I ran to the kitchen to hide behind Mum. SS came in and was trying to hit me and Mum put her arm up to protect me, SS ran straight into it! Then he tried to say that Mum punched him, but she didn’t really. Then Mum took his power.
Took his power?
 Yes, from his room. His power.
 OK - did she turn it off at the fusebox?
 no.. she took the thing on the power cord.
 the power board?
 Yes, that’s it. and she was hitting him with a spatula. And then they started fighting on her bed. She has a waterbed. SS was trying to get the powerboard back and take the spatula off her and she kept hitting him with it. Then she told him she was going to call the police!
 Were they just yelling, or were they fighting physically?
 I couldn’t see, I don’t know. SS grabbed a big jar of lavender, full of lavender, and threatened to smash it if Mum didn’t give him the power and the spatula. She told him he wouldn’t dare.. and then she said she was going to call the police.
 That sounds scary.
 Yes it was!!
We had a similar incident with him about a year ago (SS was beating up on SD in the car) SS lost it and was lashing out at DH and DH actually did punch him. (Not hard.) SS went screaming back to BB about how DH had punched him and didn’t speak to DH for about a month or so! We went to the school counsellor, both for parenting advice and advice on how to deal with SS.
BB emailed DH and told him that if he ever used physical force again that she would tell DOCS and have his access removed, that he needed to find a better way to discipline SS. I guess SS has read that email becuase of his comment about BB punching him.
And now we find she herself is hitting him with a spatula. 
No wonder the kid is screwed up.
Oh, and we know that in the past BB has punished the kids by destroying their stuff - so we don’t have to guess where that behaviour came from.
