29
Dec
This bothers me but I don’t know why..
Here is the email DH sent to BB on the 9th Dec:
,
Due to an unavoidable hospital visit, I can’t pick the kids up on Friday 15th Dec. If things go well I will be able to pick the kids up on Saturday. If I am unable to pick them up on Saturday why don’t we just add the time to the end of the school holiday time? Let me know what works for you.
Regarding SD9’s birthday, I’m working that day, so will only be able to see her from 5pm onwards. Please let me know what time after 5pm suits.
WDH
Some background - last year she broke the orders over Christmas by keeping the kids a extra day with her, and by lying to us about SS’s return time from camp (telling us the bus was coming in at 4:30pm, when it really arrived at 3:30pm) grabbing him off the bus and then keeping him overnight. (On DH’s time!)
This year, camp starts on our time and ends on her time.
This is her response (sent on the 14th - the night before the surgery.. she always waits to the last minute - I guess to try to stop us from negotiating.)
WDH
The NSW school holidays begin on Thursday December 21 – so I’m assuming you’ll be collecting the children at 4.30pm that afternoon – as per what the court orders say. I will be expecting SD9 to be returned on Thursday, January 11 at 5.30 pm as per the orders. It’s important that she’s home by 5.30 as we have plans immediately on her return. I will collect SS13 from XXX Church after he returns from the Camp on Sunday.
With regard to this week-end, since you have informed me that there is an unavoidable hospital visit (not your visit – the children have informed me) I’m happy to have the children on the Friday night and perhaps the Saturday night depending where you find yourself placed as far as being able to have the children. I am not considering this week-end a swap. You have left me in a position where I can’t plan anything with the children – just in case you come and get them on Saturday, but I’m very happy to help you out by having them the extra night or two. Also I have had to cancel my week-end plans to be away, to accommodate them. With regard to maybe picking them up on Saturday, please let me know asap if you will be coming to get them.
With regard to SD9’s birthday - 5pm until 6pm suits us.
Apart from the two obvious lies (her cancelling a weekend away and having plans immediately after us dropping SD9 back after her 3 weeks with us.) She would never help us out if it mean’t putting herself out!
There’s something about it that 
me, and I can’t put a finger on it. 
She makes them lie to us about what she has been doing on her time with them, to “protect their privacy”. She grills the kids over what we do here, what we have, basically every little detail of our lives. She is obsessed with finding out details about every little thing about us.
She HATED that she wasn’t told who the hospital visit was for, and what it was about. When the skids were on the phone to DH, she was feeding them questions to ask us about it. He told them that it was for me, but would not give them details. (It was a laproscopy to find out why I can’t conceive.)
Her comment was basically her way of showing us that she “found out” our “secret”. 
  :p My guess is she thinks we told the kids not to tell her, so in her mind, they are loyal to her because they told her, so she just HAD to mention it.
Just another way of her trying to show us that we are not entitled to any privacy.
